Adoption Profile

I thought I would do something a little different this time around. I thought that I would share our adoption profile with you. When you go on the waiting list you are required to create an adoption profile or birthparent letter as it is otherwise known. It is kind of like a photo album or scrapbook for the birthmom to look at. It should have lots of photos and info about you and your family but a large part of it is a letter to the birthmom introducing yourselves and talking about your dreams for your family. It is a hard thing to do as you don't want to come across as asking her for her baby or making her feel pressured. It was tough to write as I tried putting myself in her shoes. Never could I ask someone to give me their baby and so instead I talked about how much we respected her decision to adopt and that we would be praying for her. I ended up kind of making the whole thing one long letter. I was able to use our last profile and just add in information on Emma and update some photos and do some tweaking here and there.

How this all works is the birthmom is counselled and in a way comes up with a list of what she is looking for in the family that she would like to be matched with. The agency then looks through the list of people waiting and chooses the ones that most closely match that list. They start with the top 10 then the top 20 and so on until they find 6 or so that are similar to the birthmom's list and then they give her those 6 profiles to look through and choose a family from. If none of those work they keep working their way down the list. That is why we never have any idea how long we will be waiting. 

I am attempting to upload a PDF link for you to look at as I can't seem to get it to work any other way. If this doesn't work I apologize and I will continue to try until something does! It may seem like something personal to be sharing but I wanted to share it with the couples who were our references as well as those of you who have wondered exactly how the process works. At least I'm not sharing our home study with you. THAT would be too much information!

For those of you who do want to read through the adoption profile just click on the link below. That should take you to another webpage where you can click "download" and then "download anyway". Don't worry, it's all safe! I tried it myself and it downloaded the PDF. 

Birthparent Letter